Family Matters

Monday, December 17, 2007

Dear XXX,

I have just talked to my mother on the phone today and I believe by this, you know why am I writting this email? What she told me just now was again, I felt, another dissapointment and I do admit that I am terribly upset about it. I don't mean to sound offensive here but I believe that there are some things that I wish to convey to you about how I feel personally and I hope you will be able to understand me.

My mom has made a fair bit of choices and decisions in our family matters; and decisions are what decisions are meant to be, meaning that you can't always please everyone. But nevertheless, decisions MUST be made and my sisters and I have accepted those decisions with open minds. We reserve our highest respects for our mother and for who she is, the decisions she made and we chose to stand by her through thick and thin. We don't expect other outsiders to understand our family matters nor do we wish for them to do so but yes, we do expect our family members to respect us for who we are today; after all, that is the very basic meaning as a family. I personally do not feel that what we have been through should render us to receive less levels of respect from other people.

I guess you would have as much as guessed this by now, but the reason on why we never turned up during your tea ceremony was because my uncle wasn't invited. We have always accepted him as a part of our family so yes, it came as a shock to us then, after all the hype that my sisters and I had in going to your tea ceremony. And families make decisions as a family.

I also personally think that if my sisters and I have accepted the path that my mom has chosen to take, then I think it is good enough a reason for anyone to just accept it and be happy for us. I think you would understand my point of view right?

I am truly upset over the matter and of course dissapointed and feel the need to tell you what is bothering me. I have such love and respect for my mother and it angers me to see her being unjustly treated like that. I hope I have made myself clear then.

It is such a sad thing, for what was supposed to be a happy wedding event with a purpose of bringing the family together to celebrate for the joyous couple, have to turn out like this.

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